Finally my website is up and running! I plan on posting lots of useful information on this website; such as interviewing questions and contract templates for household staff, daily tasks for maids etc, and eventually open up a forum to members for private discussions.
My dear friend who writes eloquent posts on The Tuna Chronicles came over yesterday to help me with my webpage. We were introduced by a mutual friend from Singapore, where we both previous lived. With two young babies herself, it is one of those invaluable friendships created from the shared bond of motherhood and expathood.
You should have seen us yesterday! Although we had three nannies between us, only we could calm our two younger ones, both 10 and 11 months old. While we were bouncing, rocking, breastfeeding and distracting our babies, we were also trying to figure out how to create a webpage! Our mummy brains were working overtime and eventually we fumbled our way into finding the answers!
That’s the thing with becoming an expat housewife. Most of us came from very successful careers and educated backgrounds, however we decided to leave that old life behind to follow our husbands in pursuit of their career and oversea endeavors.
We put our own careers on hold to stay at home and raise our young families, because in most cases, we are restricted to work in the country we reside in. It’s not easy. Not only are we suddenly thrown into a new country with no family or friends, we are also facing our own private identity crisis with no job and newly parenthood. And on top of that, we are simultaneously expected to transform into perfect housewives with the capable skills of managing household staff!
It’s all a lot to take in at once and that’s why we usually find ourselves gravitating towards other expat woman. At least in their presence, they understand and don’t judge your lack of brain cells or forgetfulness, because they too are sleep deprived and trying their hardest to adjust.
PS – I also have lots of working mummy friends, who, on top of working full time, have their own struggles as an expat housewife.
Please share your struggles and experiences with your new role as an expat housewife.